Each of us is a complete person in our own right. We need to be able to live, each as a whole person, without needing another to complete us. We should be able to function normally and successfully by ourselves.
BUT ... God created marriage because we also DO need to be in deep, intimate fellowship, strengthened and strengthening, sharing, empowering together.
"It is not good for man to be alone".
"Two are better than one".
"But how can one be warm alone?"
We need the strength of unity, the bond that intimacy brings, the support of unconditional love.
Whether we share the same opinion, or if our positions differ, in marriage there is always someone who "has your back" and will support and encourage.
Too often we can focus on the differences as "bad", but there can be healthy reasons for diversity. The study points out how in marriage we can complement each other, bringing a balance.
Each of us has good, strong points. But left to themselves, these qualities could become faults. In much of our marriage there are opposites at work. The secret lies in using the power of BALANCE that these opposite brings, and to create even better results than just one of us could produce.
It is very easy to look at the areas in your spouse that are opposite to your own qualities, finding them hard to accept, and misunderstand them. Because we see from our OWN perspective. God gives opposites to bless and to create something stronger, blending two sides to make one complete entity, more powerful and effective.
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