Today's study challenges us in the area of giving unselfishly to the other, looking for her needs, looking for the signs that tell me she has a need that I can help with. It may be at this point in the movie (Love Dare) that the husband secretly used the savings for his boat to provide a hospital bed for his wife's mother.
I have always seen myself as a person who puts others first. But I know there are plenty of ways I have let Liz down by being so preoccupied with my activities, whether playing or writing the music that is so important to me, or caught up in reading a book, that I miss some of her needs, and I also miss noticing other things in the home. This places huge stress on Liz, and probably makes her feel unloved.
When we first married, I would stay up very late with Liz, letting her talk from her heart in the early hours of the morning, massaging her painful back and legs and feet. Now I am so tired at night, I am falling asleep over a book or at my computer, and I have to go to bed. I am sure this makes her feel unloved and unappreciated.
My Dare must be to give up those things at night and again give Liz the time and attention she needs. Every wife needs to know she is the most important thing to her husband, or I suppose she feels insecure. My role must include letting Liz know in her heart, by regular experience, that she can be secure in my love, and in knowing that I will not place other things as more important than her and than our family.
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