Love Dare Day Five

Day 5 (25thJan)
Love is not rude.

Will I put away ignorance and selfishness, and make sure I act a&

Etiquette, manners, respectful behaviour in the home. I hope my family can say I am well-mannered, but I can see areas in which I have let my halo slip. These things are still as important as they were when we first met. You know the old saying:
"Familiarity breeds contempt".

I often remember this. And I try to live respectfully. But I have to confess that there are areas of my life that perhaps don't paint a picture of respect to Liz. That is sad. And this means I must now make the changes I need. I want Liz to truly know that I value her and our family very, very highly. Even by my table manners.

Not hypocrisy: behave as well towards your spouse & family as you would to a stranger. I hope I do this, but I think most of us are guilty in this area. A good challenge to actually stop and assess how we behave.

Bad language, being sarcastic, doing things that deliberately embarrass or deliberately irritate. I rarely swear, don't like sarcasm (excepting clever wit that isn't aimed to attack people). But I know I often embarrass the girls. I have sometimes laughed and said it is a father's duty to embarrass his kids. Now I see it in this light, I cringe and apologies. I must examine my life and my actions, and make sure I always behave in ways to protect and preserve their dignity.

Day 5 (1st Dec):

"Love is not rude.
"Genuine love minds its manners. It behaves well. It behaves respectfully.

"I value you enough to exercise self control around you.
I want to be a person who's a pleasure to be with."



Dare: ask Liz to tell me 3 things that cause her to be uncomfortable or irritated with me. This is ONLY from her perspective, no defense from me.

SO...

How does my spouse feel about the way I speak and act around her?
How does my behaviour affect her sense of worth and self-esteem?

SOOO. The challenge for today is to ask Liz to tell me 3 things that cause her to be uncomfortable or irritated with me. From her perspective, not mine!!!

What Liz tells me will remain private, of course. This is about my own discoveries, not exposing her heart and her thoughts. But the challenge remains: I must be willing to look at how I live and behave, and to change wherever is needed.